Exclusive Interview With La'Toya, Founder and Head Coach at Heartbreak Clinic
La'Toya, Founder and Head Coach at Heartbreak Clinic. When dealing with a breakup, or struggling to cope with the aftermath, sometimes the last thing we want to do is open up. When she walked away from a seven-year relationship back in 2007, it took a long time to tell her story, and even longer for her to find the right tools to find happiness.
Today she is grateful because she has since been able to hand those tools to thousands of women and use her professional and personal experiences to guide them to real, lasting transformation.
Tell us a little bit about your background and career.
Many years ago, I walked away from a toxic relationship. I was unable to get out of bed and became withdrawn. Pursing my Behavioral Science Degree gave me the tools needed to overcome and ultimately heal.
We all have pain in our past, and I am not exception to this rule. I gave up on love, marriage, children, and the vision of having a family because It all seemed impossible.
I spent time doing self-work and became committed to becoming the best version of myself, meditating, exercising, reading, and journaling.
Today I am a mother of two and wife, Author, Founder, and Head Coach at Heartbreak Clinic; most importantly, I am grateful for the journey.
What inspired you to use your relationship experience to help other woman?
Sometimes when we go through things, we are not proud of, there is a sense of shame. After walking away from a toxic relationship, I did not feel qualified to give life advice. I was ashamed to share my story, so I choose to hide it from the world.
Practicing self-care and growing to a place of self-love and acceptance allowed me to heal my heart. Those close to me began to take notice of my transformation, and they started to ask questions, share my journey helped close friends and family members unpack the hurt so they could break free and live the life they desire. It also allowed me to learn the greater purpose for my journey. I knew that all of the hurt and pain gave me both the knowledge and experience to help other women.
I began to share my journey and thoughts openly on social media, and Heartbreak Clinic was born.
What do you think is the number one contributor to relationship problems today?
The number one contributor to relationship issues is different expectations. Knowing yourself and having a life plan are the most important things we can do before life partners. When we know who we are and what we want, it becomes easy to communicate this to a future partner.
Sometimes we start relationships without having a thorough understanding of what makes us tick and who we are. During the relationship, we may do some soul searching and gain a sense of enlightenment. It's a true blessing when we can do the self-work and connect with our morals, values, and what matters most. However, this will typically contribute to a shift in expectations.
When our expectations change, we cannot expect our partner to rise to the occasion and meet new requirements. This often creates friction in the relationship, and at some point, the relationship will naturally come to an end.
Without giving away too much about your book(s), what tips would you give to a woman who is experiencing heartbreak?
Heartbreak is one of the most challenging things you can experience in your lifetime; however, it is an opportunity to pause and reflect on the lessons learned and set expectations for future relationships.
The reality is sometimes relationships do not work. This does not mean that either of you are bad people; it simply means that you two were not suitable for each other.
Singleness is not a curse; it is an opportunity to heal past hurt, pursue goals, and live life unapologetically on your terms.
What message do you hope readers will take away from your book(s)?
The most important message to take away from my books is everyone is living according to what works for them and what makes them happy. You deserve to be happy too. Learn the things that ignite your soul, the things that make you feel alive, and do them often.
What's the most surprising thing you learned about yourself while writing your book(s)?
I am often asked, "How do you overcome writer's block." Writing late into the evening and watching the sunrise has been my key.
The most surprising thing that I have learned about myself while writing my books is, I am most inspired and enjoy writing when most people are resting.
What advice would you give a budding author?
The most important thing an inspired author can do is get started. Sometimes we are reluctant to get started because we do not have everything figured out, but the truth is God cannot bless or give direction on what we have not begun.
What services do you offer , if any?
Heartbreak Clinic helps women learn, grow and heal after heartbreak. We offer books, courses, and 1:1 coaching to ensure women of the support and tools needed to succeed along the healing journey.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years' time?
Five years from now, Heartbreak Clinic will continue to expand our services; we will also grow our team. This will create opportunities for other women to share their knowledge and expertise to help women heal.
Where can your books be purchased?
Books can be purchased by visiting
Our Website www.heartbreakclinic.org or on Amazon
How can readers connect with you?